In today’s society, when a woman wears heels, it is viewed as classy, professional & sexy. Most young men and even some older men enjoy seeing a woman in a good pair of heals with a nice dress on. A nice pair of heels brings about a certain feel or flare to a woman’s outfit and causes husbands to look at their wives in a certain way. How many people truly understand the anatomy of a heel? There are ten parts which tend to make up a high heel which are: counter, shoe quarter, heel, top heel, heel breast, shank, insole, vamp, toe box and sole. All ten of these parts help to assist the shoe in one way or another. (see photo below ) Ladies, every time we go to the mall we make it our business to go to the shoe department. We may not even have an outfit yet to go with the heels but we make sure to go and visit the shoe department just in case we find something that fits our style. We make sure to try on the heels before leaving the store. We walk up and down the aisles, stand in front of the shoe mirror and then repeat the cycle once we get home. If you are anything like me, I try to make sure that I try my heels on a least three days in a row before wearing them out to make sure that they fit perfectly. I even go as far as to keep my shoes in the box with any stuffing that may have come with my shoes in order to keep them intact. Even though the store sells more than one pair of the same shoe, each woman wears the shoe differently.
Then there are those times to which we find a shoe that we are madly in love with, however the shoe just doesn’t fit our foot type. So what do we do ladies? We try to go up a size thinking that once they stretch they'll be fine. All the while people are telling you the heels look great on you, but they can’t see that you are in pain and that your toes are falling asleep. While continuing to wear them, your feet are so uncomfortable that you are counting down the seconds when you can kick these bad boys off. All of this really could have been avoided if we would have stopped ourselves while we were still in the shoe store and realized that our foot type was not wanting to SUBMIT to the type of heel that we were trying to wear. This same thing tends to happen in our marriages. We as wives try to squeeze ourselves into heels (rolls/situations) that may not necessarily be for us. It’s during these times that our husbands begin to hurt and withdraw from us. They tend to put more focus into work, the children or just hanging out with the fellas. Sometimes as women we may feel that since we have the degree or have the larger salary that we no longer have to submit to our husbands. Society has made us believe that our heels are independent and that they don’t need the support of our husbands. Well, ladies let me tell you that’s very far from the truth. 1 Corinthians 12:20 states “as it is, there are many parts but one body.” I have never seen a heel just standing all by itself without the support of the shoe that the heel is attached too. We tend to make inner vows due to things from our past and make statements like: "ain’t no man going to tell me what to do", " I don’t need to submit he just needs to follow my lead because in the end I am always right", "my money is my money and his money is our money". It's during times like this in our marriage where are feet are not fitting the proper foot type for the heels in which we are too be wearing. Now being submissive does not mean not having your own mind, thoughts and opinions. Ladies, we can still have our own goals and dreams all while being submitted to our spouses. Being abused and mistreated is in NO way acceptable nor is this a form of submission!!! The word submission means "the act of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person" according to Webster’s dictionary. While standing at the alter on your wedding day in your white or ivory dress with your heels on you vowed to submit to your husband. Our husbands also took a vow to submit himself unto God. Ephesians 5:22-33 says it like this “22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body.31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[b] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” Ladies, it’s time to take off the heels that are uncomfortable, ugly and hurt to wear and exchange them for heels that fit our foot type. When I say foot type, I mean the heels that fit your marriage and because every marriage is different only you and your husband know your size and width and what would look best on you. It may take time for you to find the right heels, don't become discouraged. During this time communicate with your spouse and go to God together because in the end He designed and created us all. Now strut your stuff and walk in your uniquely designed SUBMISSIVE HEELS!!! D. Miller
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