Thank GOD we made it through Thanksgiving and Christmas! In fact, we are now almost through that period of time when we begin reflecting on the year we’ve enjoyed or endured, and unfortunately, when we start to see a lot of resolutions posted on social media. Does anyone take those resolutions seriously? I see the same resolve over and over and over LOL! Ok, ok I too have been guilty of making resolutions both publicly and privately. Hallelujah for GROWTH! It is important to review the year as an individual and as a couple. Andre and I choose to look at the year in retrospect. How is retrospect defined? It can be used as both a noun and a verb:
1. Contemplation of the past; a survey of past time, events, etc. (noun) 2. To look back in thought (verb) As I look back at 2016 as an individual I find myself in unfamiliar territory. There were many good things that happened, yet the losses knocked the breath out of me. As I’m going through this season, I’m doing a lot of praying and listening for direction, as well as, journaling so that when The Lord says it’s time to share our testimony we’ll be ready. Instead of asking “why me,” I’m asking My God “how will You get the glory out of this?” I’m overwhelmed yet optimistic and steadfast in my faith. I’m choosing not to dwell on the negative but instead focus on the future with S.M.A.R.T. goals rather than lofty or vague resolutions. So what’s the difference between a goal and a resolution? A resolution is defined as a firm decision to do or not to do something; and/or the quality of being determined or resolute. When I used to make resolutions I was determined and I meant what I said at the time. Whereas a S.M.A.R.T. goal is a desired result that is Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Time-based. These attributes are what were missing from what I resolved to accomplish. The what, when, and how part of what I desired to change. I often joke now that the difference between a goal and a wish is a timeline! As you look back at 2016 in retrospect be kind to yourself. Celebrate the victories no matter how small. Look for areas that you can improve upon to get closer to the version of yourself that God intended and ways that you can be better as a unit. Marriage requires communication. If your goals are not in line with or conducive to your partner’s goals you will create struggle and strife unintentionally and unnecessarily. Make a date with your love to discuss 2016 and what your vision is for 2017. May God’s blessings overflow for you and yours this coming year!
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Domineak
12/30/2016 05:11:25 pm
You Betta preach
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